The Days Before I Started to Yell Less
I remember as if it were was yesterday all the guilt, shame, and disappointment that I felt whenever I yelled, at my four sons, then ages five and under. I always wanted to be a mom but never, not once, did I picture myself as a mom who would yell at her children. I wasn’t yelled at, so how did I get to this point?! Now that I am on the other side of those feelings, I can say with certainty that it IS POSSIBLE to learn to yell less and to love yourself, your life and time with your kids more as a result. No joke. So I am glad you are here. It takes work, but oh are the benefits worth it. Yes, not yelling is great for your children but truly, the benefits extend wayyy beyond that!
Take The Orange Rhino Challenge®
I do run 30-day mini challenges throughout the year to offer more direct support. Registration for our current The Orange Rhino Challenge® 30-Days to Start Yelling Less is currently closed. Don’t worry, though, you can still start your own journey!
Step 1: Add your name to the list to be notified when the next 30-Day Challenge will begin. Subscribe below.
Step 2: Join The Orange Rhino® Community on Facebook and no longer feel alone on the journey. Trust me, you are far from the only one struggling to yell less. Parenting is hard. Life is hard. We are all human. Not one of us is perfect. Yelling Happens and our supportive community is full of parents and caretakers who share the same goal as you and who vulnerably open up about their ups and downs. I share almost daily in-the-trenches stories, insights and tips about how to Yell Less.
Here is your first tip: We give out what we feel within! In other words, if we are feeling crappy, we treat others that way. If we are yelling at ourselves about making a mistake, how our clothes fit, not succeeding at work, you name it…we will yell at those in our lives. SO…some of my stories might not seem to directly be about not yelling but they truly are.
Be ready to yell less and love yourself and your life more!
Step 3: Get your friends involved. Learning to yell less can be hard, but it’s definitely possible and it’s even more possible with the support of friends! Invite your friends to join the challenge with you and to join The Orange Rhino® facebook page so you can chat about the insights and be inspired to share your stories together – on or offline. The best parts about having friends involved? (1) You have someone to call or text when you want to yell! (2) You no longer have to carry the shame of being the only one in your friend group who yells and (3) You can check in with each other and remind each other of your goal to yell less.
For even more information on getting started, read 12 Steps To Stop Yelling At Your Kids. In this post I summarize and organize everything that I did during my first year of not yelling.