Last updated Monday, May 13th, 2013
When did the The Orange Rhino Challenge™ start?
Sunday, January 22nd, 2012. The previous Friday my handyman busted me screaming at my boys who then were 5ish, 3.5 ish, 2 ish and 6 months. I realized that weekend that I spent 9 months of having construction workers in my house not yelling because I feared what they would think of me. Yet the minute they left, I yelled freely. That was when I had my first Orange Rhino epiphany: I should care what my boys think of me more than anyone else. They are my most important audience. If I CAN not yell in front of strangers, I can certainly not yell in front of my kids. It’s a choice. I promised that weekend to go 365 days straight without yelling.
When does The Orange Rhino Challenge™ end?
The last day of The Orange Rhino Challenge year one was Wednesday, February 6, 2013. Woo hoo! I had to re-set my counter three or four times since my January 22nd start date hence the February 6th end date. That said, in my mind, The Orange Rhino Challenge™ will never officially end as it is a lifestyle change. Every day I choose to stay focused on being as calm and yell free mom as I can be! Here are two posts about my next steps post year one: “What’s Next Orange Rhino?” and “The Orange Rhino Re-Start”
How do I become a part of The Orange Rhino™ Community?
It’s simple! If you like the Facebook page www.facebook.com/TheOrangeRhino you are in! Everyone is welcome. Moms, dads, grandparents, newlyweds, caregivers, whomever! I use the Facebook page to share my alternatives to yelling, funny moments from my day, successful yell free moments from my days, help-I-need-support-from-you-all-to-stay-yell-free moments from my day as well as updates on new blog posts. I encourage everyone to post on the Facebook page when seeking support, advice, or a listening ear. Again, everyone is welcome in The Orange Rhino community so long as everyone plays nice! Our community is judgement free. All of us come from different backgrounds and different parenting styles and yet we share the same goal of learning to yell less and love more™; let’s stay focused on our common goal, not our differences.
I love the non-judgmental and supportive Orange Rhino™ community and I really want to continue supporting all the parents out there who want to yell less and love more™. As parents we have so much to worry about and feel guilty about; yelling too much doesn’t need to be added to the list. Let’s keep our community full of love so I can keep it going!
What is the 30 Days to Yelling Less Challenge I have heard about?
Deciding to yell less or not at all can be massively overwhelming. I inadvertently followed about 12 steps to get where I am today and the 30 Day Challenge is my attempt to walk people through those steps so the journey is not so overwhelming. The first go around started January 16th ish and ended on Valentine’s Day. We spent the first half of this time preparing and practicing for the challenge and then on February 1st everyone started working towards his or her own goal. I send out daily emails with thoughts and actions for the day.
Will there be another 30 Day Challenge and how do I join? Due to popular demand, yes I will lead another one! I am going to take some time after the first one stops to figure out how to improve it. I want everyone to be as successful as can be…again, as parents we have so much to think about and often feel bad about! I don’t want this to be more stress! You can join by simply emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will add you to the list for the next one.
What is one way you would suggest I start learning to yell less?
As I look back at my first week of the challenge, I did a lot of yelling into the cupboards, closets, freezer and toilet. Yes, you read that right! I taught myself first to yell AWAY from the kids and just scream an “ahhhhh!!!!” instead of screaming nasty words at them. Pretty soon I felt silly and realized wait, I do have the self-control to not yell at them. This gave me the confidence to stop all together.
What does “It’s Time to Toot Your Rhino Horn” mean?
When I started the challenge I checked in every night on Facebook and shared my progress. I quickly started calling it “Tooting your Rhino Horn.” I found that checking in kept me accountable to my promise and kept me motivated. The one week I didn’t check in at all because I was on vacation, was my hardest week ever on The Challenge. I encourage everyone to chime in and share their progress when I post about tooting your rhino horn…even if you had what you think was not a great day. First, just showing up and trying to yell less and trying to be a parent parent is tootable. It is hard to do all that, be proud of it! And sharing that you had a hard day might not only feel good but will probably get you support from other parents in the same position.