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Many of you have asked for a private community where you can freely share your thoughts, concerns, and challenges about yelling without fear that a judgmental friend or family member will chastize you. Well, seek no more. Go to:
www.theorangerhino.com/community/
This is a private forum where only people who sign up can comment. It is a fantastic place to meet other Orange Rhinos like you; whether that means with the same family dynamic, same challenges, or same zip code. Use this forum to ask questions, to give support and to get support.
I have been starting and stopping this journey for the past year. But I need to work harder. I’ve come a long way since last year, but I still yell far too much and it doesn’t help my children’s behavior. I love them more than anything but I don’t want them to remember a childhood of me yelling all the time. I want to figure out how to truly embrace this and move past 1 or 2 days of no yelling to weeks and months.
Hi There! I stumbled onto this website/blog yesterday. Can I just tell you that I started my own challenge for myself after reading almost everything on here (posts, responses etc) for 24 hours (start small)? Well, I have almost made it the 24 hours and I am so happy with the way that my kids responded to me (emotional 4 yo and precocious 2 yo boys) yesterday. I continued it this morning and will continue after work. I am taking it day to day and obstacle by obstacle. I am yet to raise my voice, but I know I will need inspiration so this private community would be ideal for me! Thanks for this!!!! You have no idea how many people you are helping to be better than what they thought they could be!
You are an inspiration! I liked the recent post about forgiveness. Forgiveness is love. I have much to be thankful for but didnt always feel loved and deserving growing up. while i dont want to dwell on the past it did shape who i am, and facing and forgiving the past can help me to move forward. We deserve to forgive and love ourselves. Loving ourselves will help us to be more happy and loving moms. I want to break the cycle of yelling and criticizing so my daughter can grow up to be as amazing and confident and happy as I imagine she will be. 🙂
Me and my hubby are excited to start my little one turns 3 the 19th and he hits me not my hubby and will listen to my hubby not me but i spend most of the time with him we were looking to putting him into daycare but finances will not allow that so i am going to start some structure of home school and the no yelling and hope it works……Here goes nothing! 🙂
I am a full-time father two kids. Two months ago I became really irritable, I ended up pushing my 2 1/2 year relationship with my fiancé away. Because I cannot control my emotions. I told her I was going to help and she still left. She made me more angry and told her stuff that I really didn’t mean because I was hurt. My two kids love her very very much, I am upset with myself that I know what I did was wrong and I kept on doing it. I can’t figure out how to forgive myself for pushing her away and hurting my two kids by her leaving? The person I talked to told me that i I needed to mindfulness. My kids still talk about her and ask when she’s coming back home so you be a happy family again. Every time my kids talk about her I get upset with myself for pushing her away when I know I was doing wrong. We were all hurt by her leaving but I am hurt and can’t forgive my self for pushing the only mother figure they had away. This makes me scared to ever have a relationship again. Because now I’m concerned about every woman leaving and my kids being hurt over that.
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I had my first child at 15 still a child myself and had 5 more before I was 24. I was hard on my kids and yelled a lot. When my kids were grown I got pregnant at age 39 I already had three grandbabies an one on the way, needless to say I wasn’t to happy to be starting over again, but it is what it is. Now my daughter is 6 and I have a lot more patients with her than I ever had with my other kids, an believe , me they let me know the only thing I can say is I’m older an I know better .
Thanks!
I am looking forward to joining this forum! Thank you for setting it up!
Ok ….my name is Georgina and I am the mother of three beautiful children aged 9, 8 and 4. I have always struggled with my patience levels and am often disgusted by my own behavior. I lose my temper and act like a monster. I feel ashamed and apologize to my kids quite a lot, but have never been able to change my behavior. This is the first website that has given me hope for a better future with my children. I’m so scared of them becoming strangers ….(like my mum and I) I don’t want them to look back and think who was that angry stressed out horrible mommy. I love them so much. You are so right that I rarely lose it in public because I fear being judged as a bad mother. I am going to try this challenge I can’t even imagine what it would be like not to yell for year ! But I need to try something as sometimes I don’t even see the anger coming its so quick …..any advice is much appreciated.
I’m in !!
Thanks! I am so glad I found this group! Love all the tips and tricks.
what are some of my triggers…
my 5 year old sweet eyed beautiful child …
second oldest of 4
ages 7.5,5,3,7 months
he pushes me as no other, my oldest used to be the trigger with the whining.
but the sweet soul that has anger as no other is a hitter a screamer a kicker and a mean word sayer…
today he bashed his 3 year old sisters head off the coffee table because he felt like it.
I know it stems from jealousy and wanting all of me . he feels no one loves him … he acts out for love yet in the same token will tell me e loves me and kiss his baby brother and just help me and be wonderful !
very short lived however …
breaks my heart to even post such negativity…
truth be told my husband and I split the day I came home with my new baby… he obviously could handle the repsonaobilites and found another mom of 3…
we had been miserable for a long time … he was mean and controling and a fun ruininer LOL!
he was nagging and just impatient with the boys yet treated the 5 year old like a king the first 3 years…
till he had a voice…
my life is full of love and I work at home running my own business to provide ( state ran childcare and I am a soap maker)
but I one person… I don’t wat to yell anymore, I want my confidence back!
help!!!